writing how to write a breakup letter How to Write a Good Breakup Letter

Writing a breakup letter is sometimes the right thing to do, when you feel like you cannot break the news effectively by talking to your partner in person. Before coming to a decision of writing a breakup letter you should be absolutely sure that ending the relationship is what you want. In the letter you basically explain why taking this step is important for both of you in a courteous manner. Rather than going for an angry or dramatic breakup letter, you should wait until your emotions are cooled down- only then you should sit down and pen your breakup email or letter.

Few Tips to Write a Sensible Breakup Letter

  1. Never decide to write a break up letter when you are angry or facing a rush of emotions. You have to be absolutely certain and composed about what you are going to do and write.
  2. Be honest to your partner and write the actual reasons why you have decided to split. Don’t be harsh but don’t let the person wonder what went wrong so be clear and use appropriate words because anything that is written would always stay there.
  3. Tell your partner that you are grateful for the good times you had together and acknowledge all that he/she deserves for making your life better and enjoyable than before.
  4. Don’t play the blame game because it will make it hard for both of you to move on. It will only give way to more grudges, bad taste and haunting memories. That’s not healthy for any one of you.
  5. Moving on is important for your partner as you would want to do the same so encourage him/her to do so. If you think that you made some mistakes, apologize but don’t give your partner a false impression e.g. something that makes him/her think that you are looking for a possibility of continuing the relationship.
  6. Sometimes it’s a good idea to sever any kind of future communication for quite some period of time. This helps in letting off the steam and accepting the reality. You can state that you are going for a vacation or moving to some other state/country.
  7. Keep the letter short, polite and clear. Don’t leave any ambiguities but don’t be insensitive. Wish your partner well in the end and thank him/her once more for the part of life he/she shared with you.
  8. Avoid sending the letter the very day you write it. Sleep over it, read again and make changes if you have to, just to be sure.
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